FREE Report – 5 Top Tips To Surviving Your Family Over Thanksgiving
The Holidays are coming. The countdown has started. Are you feeling excited, or has your stomach tightened with anxiety as soon as you read my words? The pressure to have a picture postcard perfect celebration is huge. It can cause a lot of stress. Often the stress already starts when you have to make a decision about who is going to host Thanksgiving this year. The awkwardness can start right there. Perhaps you find when you are with your family, old unresolved jealousies and rivalries kick up every year about the same subjects. Maybe you dread the arguments and bad behaviour of certain family members. Or the inevitable personal questions about your private life stop you from relaxing.
As you pack your clothes for Thanksgiving will you think about how you will answer the enquiry…
“Have you met someone nice yet or are you still single?”
as you put the presents for your family into bags will you find yourself dreading how long before you get asked…
“When are you going to have a baby?”
or while you sort through your bathroom cupboards for your toiletries will you get that sinking feeling when you anticipate the question…
“When are you going to get a proper job?”
not to mention most terrible question of all…
“When are you going to do something useful with your life?”
Just read these first few lines might already be making you wish you didn’t have to go this year!
I have put together a list of 5 top tips on how to survive spending loads of time with your family this Thanksgiving.
*1. Make Sure Other Family Members Don’t Drag You Down
When you are together with family members, you can end up feeling like a waterlogged sponge. Overloaded with their company. When other people don’t deal with their own bad moods, you can pick them up. This affects your ability to enjoy yourself. If mom or dad complain a lot or your brother or sister are stuck in self-defeating habits, keeping your own good mood is a challenge. You end up like that sponge, heavy with their emotional baggage, leaving you feeling anxious and low for the rest of the Holidays.
The solution comes down to high vibrations. Have you ever noticed how when you feel angry or frustrated, it takes a lot out of you? When you feel anxious, does it exhaust you? That is because emotions like anxiety, anger and frustration cause heavy vibrations in your body. When you are with other people who have heavy vibrations, it is a real challenge to raise your own. You need high vibrations to raise your mood. Emotions are a powerful form of energy and that is why you get so affected by the mood of others. Life Retuning offers you a fast and effective treatment to lift your anxiety and get into a high vibration state. One of the great benefits is that you won’t absorb your family’s bad moods any more. So you can keep your good mood and enjoy the Holidays.
If you haven’t tried Life Retuning yet, here is a great way to change your energy to a high vibration state. The Hawaiians have a Prayer of Forgiveness. They call it Ho’oponopono and it means ‘to make right’. At this time of year it is a beautiful way of starting the healing process with your family members. The Prayer of Forgiveness has the power to change the low vibrations you have soaked up, into high vibrations. It activates 4 key energies which change the atmosphere around you. By transforming heavy emotions and negative thinking these 4 key energies can promote a relaxed and happy mood.
These 4 key energies are positive emotions and they are repentance, forgiveness, gratitude and love and they all carry high, light vibrations.
Hawaiian Prayer of Forgiveness
I love you,
Please forgive me,
My Top Tip…
Use the Ho’oponopono – Hawaiian Prayer of Forgiveness before, during and after Thanksgiving.
*2. Stand in Your Power
There are status dynamics within a family and that means you are expected to behave a certain way at social gatherings like Thanksgiving. Maybe you are still treated like a little kid even though you have a responsible job and are successful at it. You might even have kids of your own but find that every year you get irritated by how you get treated in the family home.
Do you ever find yourself in a situation where your authority gets challenged? When you feel you are not allowed to lead, suggest, initiate, create or express yourself within your family? Does your mom or sister have a habit of taking over the conversation you are having and shutting you out? Do you get upset but deep inside sense that they have a right to do that to you? How you feel can also undermine your authority with your kids when they see how grandma treats you. Getting them to respect you afterwards can be a struggle. Furthermore, your confidence can be zapped when you walk in to your job after the Holidays. It can be paralysing to decide you will stand up for yourself this time, but when you are with your family, you just can’t do it.
When you give in to the role your family sees you in, you send out a message to them energetically. It centres around your beliefs about yourself and your family. Your thoughts are an energetic signal that other people respond to unconsciously. When you expect to be dominated, ignored or pushed out you get treated that way. Life Retuning switches this by changing your self-defeating beliefs into empowering ones and so your energetic thought signal changes too. That means you can by delightfully surprised as family members suddenly treat you with respect, listen to you and stop dominating you.
My Top Tip…
Prepare yourself before you leave for your Holidays. Dig deep and think about how you value yourself. As you value yourself, so will others value you. A good exercise is to write a list beginning…
I bring unique value to my family by…
You might be a great listener, strong, compassionate, creative, soothing. Uncover your great assets and go back to your list if you feel challenged over the Holidays. Feel good about yourself.
*3. Practice Active Gratitude
Thanksgiving is about gratitude. Recognising the abundance that we already have in our lives. One of the best ways of doing this is by having a daily Active Gratitude practice. By recognising the abundance that you already have in your life and focusing your attention on it, you are creating a state where more can come in. That can have a great healing effect on your family too. Gratefulness sweetens your mood and others are much more likely to treat you well.
My Top Tip…
Start your day by bringing to your conscious awareness all the things you are grateful for and feel the sense of satisfaction and happiness for having them. You can start with the smallest thing, like the comfy bed you just slept in, or the fact you received a Facebook message from a friend. It all counts. So how can you bring even more positive energy into that experience? Breath into the good feelings your thoughts create. Then explore what you receive from your family. Lessons, challenges, love, support, strength, value and feel that inside your body. Then radiate out that energy of gratitude to your family before you go down to breakfast. They will feel your good energy and you might be surprised at how differently you get treated, with kindness, tenderness and love.
*4. Listen Properly To Others
Most people have a habit of spending the time when someone is talking to them, thinking about what they are going to say next and therefore do not hear a lot of what is important. When you watch a conversation between other people it is amazing to see how often peoples’ answers bear no relevance to what has just been said by the other person. We all appreciate being listened to. People pay a lot of money to go to see somebody professionally who will listen to them. How often have you felt that you were not being listened to or heard by your family? Misunderstandings arise from the inability, or unwillingness, to listen and result in a feeling of separation from others. If you feel separated from your family members you are more likely also to find it difficult to empathise with their feelings and feel like you don’t belong.
My Top Tip…
My top tip is Listen properly to others. During Thanksgiving, when you are having a conversation with a family member, fight the impulse to start talking and really listen to what they are saying. Pay attention to the way that they talk. Is there emotion in their voice? Does their voice modulate in tone? What are they actually saying to you? You can understand a lot about a person when they express themselves through speech. The more that you understand somebody else, the more you identify with them, even if you do not agree with what they are actually are saying. That helps your family harmony.
*5. Feed The Right Wolf
What you spend the majority of your time thinking about, is what is going to show up in your life. That is why it is essential to focus on what makes you feel good, creates harmony, understanding and joy. That is the energy you need to maintain during Thanksgiving. But it is challenging when there is so much going on with other people and what they are spending their time focusing on. There is an old Cherokee Indian story which illustrates how you can be pro-active…
A Grandfather was sitting with his little Grandson around the fire and he said to the boy, ‘there is a battle going on inside me. It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is black and evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.” He continued, “The other is white and good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.”
The Grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: “Which wolf will win?” His Grandfather replied, “the one you feed”
Imagine that the white wolf represents peace and harmony and that the black wolf represents arguments and bad feelings. When you feed the black wolf, it gets stronger and the white wolf gets weaker. If you focus on fears of lack, frustrations, unfairness, envy and regret then those feelings will become strong in you and block your ability to be feel relaxed and joyful. However, if you feed the white wolf and feel gratitude, love, joy and excitement then those will become your dominant forces in your life. The black wolf will become weaker and have less of a say in what you experience. Remember that emotions and thoughts carry an energy and they are very powerful catalysts in our lives. By clearing all your negative feelings and black thoughts you will establish an high vibration, which will attract great festive experiences.
My Top Tip…
Use your meal times during the Holidays. When you are eating, imagine feeding your white wolf at the same time. Each time you take a mouthful, feel the food transforming into gratitude, love, joy and excitement.
If you are ready to do the deep transformative work with your energy, your moods and beliefs, Life Retuning offers you the opportunity. A big difference from other methods is that it side-steps your mind, meaning there is no need to analyse reasons or revisit painful memories to find the answer to why you feel upset, angry or anxious. It simply works to create shifts in your energy which convert your distressing feelings and gloomy thoughts so that you feel relaxed, happy and no longer affected by your family’s behaviour. Imagine how amazing that would be!
I have designed a very special package for you, to get you prepared and give you the best Thanksgiving holiday ever. The package is 2 targeted sessions where I will
work to wipe out your anxieties, fears, frustrations and upset
switch your negative thoughts over to a deep knowing that you deserve and are capable of having great relationships with your family.
I am really excited to be doing this because I know how powerful Life Retuning is in changing your life for the better.